Mother In-Law Drama: Who gets the front seat?
I watched a skit a few days ago that was about a wife, whose mother-in law took the front seat of her son’s car and the wife chastised her husband about his mother’s actions.
Now this may seem petty to a few people, including me.
Matter of fact it is petty as hell abeg but this is also a very serious
situation because I have come across the same question on different platforms
before so obviously it is an issue to some. I have to ask though, why is this
even an issue? Are we women that jobless that mama taking the front seat is now
something to get angry about? I do not understand the level of pettiness here.
As far as I am concerned, I do not see how your mother-in-law taking the front
seat reduces your position as her son’s wife.
Please don’t be bothered if this happens to you. Let the
woman sit in the front if that’s what she wants, and you seat in the owner’s
corner at the back minding your own business jejely. Just be praying she isn’t
around for so long, or your husband’s driving makes her nauseous so she won’t
want to get in the car at all sef……….lol…. just kidding o.
I honestly feel there is so much else going on, things to do
to occupy your time and mind, such that little inconveniences like that should
not be enough to break your stride. Now there are some meddlesome
mother-in-laws like the one in the skit who just “chanced” the wife, and it
looked like an intentional move on her part; someone as described above is just
troublesome, and looking for anyway to get at the wife. Please do not fall for
old tricks like that. Ignore, Ignore, Ignore. In fact, help her adjust her seat
well and even the vent so the air conditioning blows in the right direction. In
short, help her feel comfortable. But if she had rubbed you the wrong way
plenty of times before and you’ve gotten to the point where you want to just
explode ehn, biko just don’t even help with making her comfortable, before you
kee the poor woman….loll.. just take a deep breath, and maybe throw your
husband a stinker eye sef for emphasis…lol… but please don’t start protesting
or talking anyhow. Just let it go. It’s just a car ride.
BUT OOOOOO, if mama now decides she wants to take over your
bedroom as in sleeping on the same bed with her son – a grown ass man, married
man, working man, baba bon boy man; omo you have more problems to worry about
o. That is some crazy ish right there. However, guess what, this happens in
some households. I really do not know how people handle this thing without
losing it.
Now to the mother-in-law: So really you’re going to sit in
the front seat? Let’s call a spade a spade ma, that’s not your place oo at all
ma, it’s not your place at all at all…haba. I know he’s your son and that
will never change, but just as I hope
you won’t say you want to breast feed your married son because you raised him
for donkey years, I hope you will know there are certain places you do not
belong within your son’s marriage. Please stop it TODAY!
If your mom is one of the mothers who do this, please ehn,
tell her to stop abeg. We have told the wife to allow it gracefully out of
respect for the mama and her husband, but I will also implore the Mother-in-law
to also change abeg. Everyone needs to do his or her part.
Shikena…
Xoxo....
Sav
9 comments
Write commentsThank you Seun, God Bless you. Infact triple bless. The rate at which we women of now adays are quick to contest with our mother-in law over even really small matters is alarming. There is no issue here except the lady is petty. Let the old woman enjoy been in the front seat. Shikena
ReplyAll des over sabi daughter in laws. Its because you have not met a crazy mother in law before that's why you comment sounds judgmental.
ReplyA mother in law has no biz in the front seat period. Let us stop encouraging all this bad behavior.
Great one Savannah. Please write more often
ReplyBisi,your head dey there abeg. My mother in-trouble (as I call her) is one crazy woman. You won't even believe the things she fights me about in my husband's house. Pastors, elderly people have all called her to order but for where she no gree. And my husband is a goody two shoes who thinks he can please both his mum and wife even when the elders have told him point blank that his mom is poison to his marriage.
ReplyThe last time she came to my house she looked at my pot of Afang soup (which everyone in my house ate the night before and were licking fingers and asking for more) and started shouting in my kitchen what kind of ugly pot of soup is this? Is this what my son continues to eat? All this nonsense girls of nowadays who don't know how to cook but can wear shoes as high as heaven.
And she continued on and on. I ignored her. Took my little kids with me to my bedroom, locked the door and watched movies in there till my husband returned home.
At that point I came out of the bedroom so I could make semo for him, only to find out his mother had poured my afang soup away and made a pot of egusi ONLY for her son to eat.
Please Savanna, tell me how will I let this kind of woman sit in the front sit after doing something as bad as that. How possible? It will take a lot not to drag her from inside that car into one yamayama gutter.
Please this your advise works when one is dealing with a normal human being.
Lolll @ triple bless. Amen oo. I don't know about the women of nowadays comment though. I see it as the women just not putting up with BS like our mothers did. Nonetheless patience--- plenty of it is warranted on both sides. Thanks love for reading and commenting
ReplyThanks Love... I'll try.
ReplyHaaaaa Jesus!!! Naaa your Mother in-law is not from this world abeg! That's so crazy. I can totalll relate to having a crazy MIL. I dont even know what to tell you but your husband needs to be a little more proactive about this. The problem with all this mama's boys is they can't stand up and talk to their mom. Please continue to be patient and ignore as much as possible. Its hard but pls try. At least she doesn't live with you so be thankful for that....
ReplyThanks for reading and commenting .xoxo
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ReplyHahaha I love this post!!!
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