Stop Chopping My Money.
Heyyyyyyy Heyyyyyy Heyyyyyy, Whats Popping people!
I have to say thank you to my peeps who keep urging me to
post new content. I literally have fans who email or text me to post something
cos they need my stories to get them rolling. I’m always so pleased to hear
this. Emi na ko o- it’s all Baba God. Thank you Jesus. We are multiplying in
number. Soon we will be the must read blog. Amen.
First and foremost I have to thank Steve Jobs for Face Time.
It just makes gisting with friends on the other side of the world so much
juicer and easier. It’s my preferred way of communicating now. If you have an
Iphone I just call you on FT – end of story.
So anyhoos, over the long weekend, I called my friend Zee who lives in
Lag. He’s just a fun person to gist with I swear. As soon as he picked up he
didn’t even say hello Sav, he just went into gist mode straight up.
He was like Sav, what is wrong with you naija women these
days ehn (In my head I was like egbami, I just wanted to say Hi nau),
especially the girls in Lagos. They are like modern day robbers, everything is
about money. If a guy doesn’t have money they don’t want to date you, If you
appear to have and you don’t give they start acting up. Why is everything about
money with you people? We don’t even know if a girl is real or not these days.
We can’t tell if a girl loves us for real or not or she’s just after our money.
He gives an example of a girl who used corny man die moves to get money from
him by asking him to give her hard currency while he she transfers naira to his
naija account. Dude fell for it and babe never paid up. Now, as per big boy
that he is he can’t be asking for the money back just any how cos these days
you gats to keep your rep up. Next thing
you know babe calls him and starts sweet talking him on the phone- as in major
esa and dude was feeling it, already his head was swelling and I think the
engine too was revving as well, that is until babe asked him for a few hundred
pounds to add to her flight ticket. Zee said his jaw just dropped as in
ahn..ahn.. won fi owo se eh ni!. Reality hit him that this babe was out for his
money.
Then he mentioned how he was on vacation and took some girls
out and the first thing the girls ordered was champagne. I burst out laughing
at this juncture.
Now Zee’s friend who was also around interjected into this
conversation asking sort of how often should a girl be asking for money from
her man, and if you give a girl $500 why is she asking for more so soon?
All this time I was listening and then I said you know what,
I blame you people too. You guys live in Lagos and are giving girls money in
pounds and dollars- why won’t they rob you people blind!
My opinion on this whole men spending on women matter is
this:
A guy should not be spending ridiculous sums on a woman he
is not yet dating. You need to however do the general spending like going on
dates and footing the bills, and occasionally picking up extras like filling up
her gas thank, paying for her to have her hair done, a mani\pedi , and “I was
passing by a mall and saw this and I just had to get it for you” gifts. Yes,
this has been working since the stone age, and we girls need to somehow be able
to tell that you are not stingy before we say Yes.
Mandatory gifts for birthday\Valentines\Christmas should not
be missed except you are a goat, really. Now, when you are dating, don’t start
a culture of giving what you know you have no plans on sustaining. You want to
get a girl, and you start giving her 100K every month as allowance, then after
giving her twice you now decide you’re stopping- for what now???
I told them directly that a girl you have just started
asking out or just started dating, and is asking you for money- you had better
run for your life. Respectable girls don’t do this. I think a certain amount of time and level of
comfortability should have passed and be established before you start asking a
guy for money. Even then, please be wise in the asking. Don’t be asking for
frivolous things. And I will say this too: Ladies, when a guy takes you out
please don’t order or buy things that you know you would not\cannot afford to
buy on your own. That’s just pure greed.
A guy takes you out and you order champagne! If you were having a night
out with your girls you would not be ordering no champagne so please why do
that to someone else? Are you that starved! Ahnn Ahn…. You girls can embarrass
someone honestly.
See, the guys are getting wiser to y’alls antics. Stop all
this nonsense and respect yourself. When
a guy is asking you out or dating you, If he wants to put you on a 1million
naira allowance, let him do it of his own accord. He’s not obligated to and It
doesn’t make him a bad person. There are other ways to deduce a stingy man.
Another way to look at it is this, money you cannot spend on yourself, or that
your dad has not spent & will not spend on you – don’t have a sense of
entitlement to it from a man you are not married to.
Xoxo,
Love is a beautiful thing.