Stop Chopping My Money.

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Heyyyyyyy Heyyyyyy Heyyyyyy, Whats Popping people!

I have to say thank you to my peeps who keep urging me to post new content. I literally have fans who email or text me to post something cos they need my stories to get them rolling. I’m always so pleased to hear this. Emi na ko o- it’s all Baba God. Thank you Jesus. We are multiplying in number. Soon we will be the must read blog. Amen.

First and foremost I have to thank Steve Jobs for Face Time. It just makes gisting with friends on the other side of the world so much juicer and easier. It’s my preferred way of communicating now. If you have an Iphone I just call you on FT – end of story.  So anyhoos, over the long weekend, I called my friend Zee who lives in Lag. He’s just a fun person to gist with I swear. As soon as he picked up he didn’t even say hello Sav, he just went into gist mode straight up.

He was like Sav, what is wrong with you naija women these days ehn (In my head I was like egbami, I just wanted to say Hi nau), especially the girls in Lagos. They are like modern day robbers, everything is about money. If a guy doesn’t have money they don’t want to date you, If you appear to have and you don’t give they start acting up. Why is everything about money with you people? We don’t even know if a girl is real or not these days. We can’t tell if a girl loves us for real or not or she’s just after our money. He gives an example of a girl who used corny man die moves to get money from him by asking him to give her hard currency while he she transfers naira to his naija account. Dude fell for it and babe never paid up. Now, as per big boy that he is he can’t be asking for the money back just any how cos these days you gats to keep your rep up.  Next thing you know babe calls him and starts sweet talking him on the phone- as in major esa and dude was feeling it, already his head was swelling and I think the engine too was revving as well, that is until babe asked him for a few hundred pounds to add to her flight ticket. Zee said his jaw just dropped as in ahn..ahn.. won fi owo se eh ni!. Reality hit him that this babe was out for his money.

Then he mentioned how he was on vacation and took some girls out and the first thing the girls ordered was champagne. I burst out laughing at this juncture.

Now Zee’s friend who was also around interjected into this conversation asking sort of how often should a girl be asking for money from her man, and if you give a girl $500 why is she asking for more so soon?

All this time I was listening and then I said you know what, I blame you people too. You guys live in Lagos and are giving girls money in pounds and dollars- why won’t they rob you people blind!

My opinion on this whole men spending on women matter is this:

A guy should not be spending ridiculous sums on a woman he is not yet dating. You need to however do the general spending like going on dates and footing the bills, and occasionally picking up extras like filling up her gas thank, paying for her to have her hair done, a mani\pedi , and “I was passing by a mall and saw this and I just had to get it for you” gifts. Yes, this has been working since the stone age, and we girls need to somehow be able to tell that you are not stingy before we say Yes.

Mandatory gifts for birthday\Valentines\Christmas should not be missed except you are a goat, really. Now, when you are dating, don’t start a culture of giving what you know you have no plans on sustaining. You want to get a girl, and you start giving her 100K every month as allowance, then after giving her twice you now decide you’re stopping- for what now???

I told them directly that a girl you have just started asking out or just started dating, and is asking you for money- you had better run for your life. Respectable girls don’t do this.  I think a certain amount of time and level of comfortability should have passed and be established before you start asking a guy for money. Even then, please be wise in the asking. Don’t be asking for frivolous things. And I will say this too: Ladies, when a guy takes you out please don’t order or buy things that you know you would not\cannot afford to buy on your own. That’s just pure greed.  A guy takes you out and you order champagne! If you were having a night out with your girls you would not be ordering no champagne so please why do that to someone else? Are you that starved! Ahnn Ahn…. You girls can embarrass someone honestly. 

See, the guys are getting wiser to y’alls antics. Stop all this nonsense and respect yourself.  When a guy is asking you out or dating you, If he wants to put you on a 1million naira allowance, let him do it of his own accord. He’s not obligated to and It doesn’t make him a bad person. There are other ways to deduce a stingy man. Another way to look at it is this, money you cannot spend on yourself, or that your dad has not spent & will not spend on you – don’t have a sense of entitlement to it from a man you are not married to.


Xoxo,
Love is a beautiful thing.

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Anonymous
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July 16, 2015 at 11:52 AM delete

Finally, a post on the men's behalf. I was beginning to think Savannah is sexist.
I couldn't agree more with your personal stand. I've always been turned off by women who appear to be interested in me based on the depths on my pockets. I am not a stingy man in any way but please don't come asking for money for this and that. Let me do what I want to do for you at my own time.

Yemi

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Anonymous
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July 20, 2015 at 1:46 PM delete

Sav, you need to be annoucing to us that you have new post please.
I agree with you on this. Ladies who don't obtain from men are far and few this days. I've told my younger brothers that when they bring a serious girl home i will do the money test on them so we can weed out the one that's just there for the money. All this girls in this Lagos and even Abuja - they were definitely not there when Christ died.

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July 20, 2015 at 2:07 PM delete

lmaooo @ your last sentence. Were you there when He died?? Lolll how do you people come up with things like this. Ahn. ahn..
I'm with you though. I would totally scruitinize any girl coming near my brothers abeb..

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July 20, 2015 at 2:09 PM delete

Hiiiiiii Yemi, i'm glad you know i'm not sexist o. But you know you guys are partly to blame because you use material things as bait to catch a woman. Y'all have started a trend that has now become cancerous. To cure it now is wahala..

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favour moyse
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July 30, 2015 at 3:01 PM delete

hahahahah... bad belle



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Fatimah Tomi
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October 17, 2015 at 10:20 PM delete

Finally, a dose of sanity! Let them hear abeg

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